Another Way to Heal - Like, Value, Respect
Once upon a time there was a worker named Sally who became very ill but didn't know why. She finally figured it out, but it took a long, long time to heal.
While she was sicker than a dog, she tried to keep up at work. The illness made her cranky and unable to cope with people very well, so when the new boss came, trouble came too.
Every time her boss ridiculed her or assigned her to low skill tasks, she felt cranky and wasn't hiding it. But acting cranky just made things worse.
Sally knew she was in a lot of trouble and could lose her job, so she asked a trusted friend for help. Mimi was an advanced trainer and knew her stuff. After listening to Sally, she said: "Your boss doesn't like, value or respect you because you don't like, value or respect her." Sally thought that could be true, but what could she do?
Mimi's advice: Find one thing about your boss you can like, one thing you can value and one thing you can respect."
Sally maybe was headstrong, but she wasn't a fool. Nice to have a job, eh? So she put pride aside and tried out being friendly and helpful. Thinking about one thing to like, one thing to value, one thing to respect wasn't really hard at all, and it took the edge off of things Sally detested until she realized that detesting things isn't all that useful anyhow.
The key was to ignore unhelpful things and focus on winning things. Find something that is key to helping at work, and be friendly even when you don't feel like it. Things will improve.
Sally told me that this was really difficult, but after just sucking eggs and doing this for awhile, she knew this was the right path. Cranky behaviour just adds misery upon misery. And while all the problems of the past aren't absolutely healed, they have improved a lot.
Oh, and by the way, the only way to survive these negative/positive turn-arounds and keep your sanity is to do fun things for yourself. So I am going to meet Sally for lunch and we are going to try and find a copy of the Harry Potter book!
You cannot work out of crazy, dismal situations without niceties and fun to balance out the sores. So go have fun! Yes, you have to get up and out and do fun things for yourself.
Auriel is taking singing lessons from a really great jazz and all around artist. How's that!
While she was sicker than a dog, she tried to keep up at work. The illness made her cranky and unable to cope with people very well, so when the new boss came, trouble came too.
Every time her boss ridiculed her or assigned her to low skill tasks, she felt cranky and wasn't hiding it. But acting cranky just made things worse.
Sally knew she was in a lot of trouble and could lose her job, so she asked a trusted friend for help. Mimi was an advanced trainer and knew her stuff. After listening to Sally, she said: "Your boss doesn't like, value or respect you because you don't like, value or respect her." Sally thought that could be true, but what could she do?
Mimi's advice: Find one thing about your boss you can like, one thing you can value and one thing you can respect."
Sally maybe was headstrong, but she wasn't a fool. Nice to have a job, eh? So she put pride aside and tried out being friendly and helpful. Thinking about one thing to like, one thing to value, one thing to respect wasn't really hard at all, and it took the edge off of things Sally detested until she realized that detesting things isn't all that useful anyhow.
The key was to ignore unhelpful things and focus on winning things. Find something that is key to helping at work, and be friendly even when you don't feel like it. Things will improve.
Sally told me that this was really difficult, but after just sucking eggs and doing this for awhile, she knew this was the right path. Cranky behaviour just adds misery upon misery. And while all the problems of the past aren't absolutely healed, they have improved a lot.
Oh, and by the way, the only way to survive these negative/positive turn-arounds and keep your sanity is to do fun things for yourself. So I am going to meet Sally for lunch and we are going to try and find a copy of the Harry Potter book!
You cannot work out of crazy, dismal situations without niceties and fun to balance out the sores. So go have fun! Yes, you have to get up and out and do fun things for yourself.
Auriel is taking singing lessons from a really great jazz and all around artist. How's that!
posted by Auriel Ragmon | 11:56 AM
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